I think it is the general desire of Christians to please our Lord in all our decisions. But we wrestle with the “how”. God doesn’t make our decisions for us or tell us what to do. That’s what it means to be human.
Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”
So you want to know how to make major life decisions? Proverbs has 3 things to tell you. Then I’m going to add a 4th from other parts of the Bible.
1. Life revolves around God, not you.
Let’s look at Proverbs 16:1-9.
Verse 1 & 9 are like brackets around all of 1-9, and they basically say this, “We can make plans, but God’s will is definitive.” When I was 18, my plans were to pursue an engineering career and make lots of money. I looked through lenses that said, “I am the center of the world.” God had other plans. Guess who won???
Verse 2 presents a contrast between our perception of ourselves and God’s view of us.
Verse 3 teaches us that all life-planning and decision-making should be done with an open hand and a willingness to change when God shows us a different plan.
Do you have any blind spots? The problem with blind spots is that we can’t see them. So we need to ask someone else who we have a good relationship with to help us out.
2. Faith is required.
Are you trusting the Lord Jesus Christ for your eternal salvation, so that you don’t spend eternity in hell paying for your sins? Any problems trusting him with that? Then why does it seem that we are allergic to faith in this life? We may say that we want to do God’s will, but at the same time be unwilling to make a faith step in the direction he is leading. It doesn’t work that way. Doing God’s will in your decisions and actions requires faith.
Proverbs 3:5-6 is written at the beginning of the post. “Trust God…don’t lean on your own understanding.” Does God know things you don’t know? Does God know the future? Do you? The questioning could go on. If you’re leaning on something and it falls what happens to you? You fall. This is why we need to have faith in God as we make decisions even if everything is not clear or logical to us.
Will your own knowledge ever fail you? Proverbs 14:12 seems applicable.
Will God ever fail you?
Don’t be afraid to make decisions in faith. God is with you and God is for you. You can have faith in him.
3. Who You Are Is Most Important
The righteousness of the blameless keeps his way straight, but the wicked falls by his own wickedness. The righteousness of the upright delivers them, but the treacherous are taken captive by their lust. – Proverbs 11:5-6
Let’s be real clear because there seems to be a misunderstanding in Christian circles…your lifestyle and your holiness matters. You will stand before the Lord and give account for the way you lived.
It’s crazy to go before the Lord asking him for wisdom about making big decisions if you don’t plan on living your life for him. Don’t ask him to guide you in career and job decisions if you don’t plan on living a holy life.
I don’t think it’s too much of a stretch to say that God cares more about who you are (character) than what you do.
4. God is with you and God is for you.
As you make big life decisions you need to have these 2 truths in your back pocket. So often we feel like God has dropped us in the middle of a labyrinth and told us not to mess up or make any wrong turns. Where do we get this from?
God is with you.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9
“…I am with you always, to the end of the age.” – Matthew 28:20
God is for you.
“What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?” – Romans 8:31-32